What have you left?

Question yourself again “What have you left”?,for your son/ daughter. Probably a nice house, sophisticated life style with extra ordinary things, fancy car, great sum of money and lot more. Matters like peace, love, care, courtesy etc all these words seem positive yet are they practiced in life. It remains a question mark. Earnestly explore what have you sowed in their heart?

“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders. But they have never failed to imitate them” – James Baldwin.

Before you could conclude about the behavior of your kids, understand about personality traits. Personality is quite difficult to define. Yet its “Habitual patterns and qualities of behavior of any individual as expressed by physical and mental activities and attitudes. Brain Adams writes that man has two types of personality: Adequate and inadequate.

Adequate personality derives from a proper value being placed on the real self with wonderful traits admired by others: enthusiastic, friendly, generous, loving, compassionate etc.

Inadequate personality reflects deep inner resentments and hostilities towards the self. Arising due to lack of self respect and esteem. Negative thoughts are the seeds for such personality traits: envy, jealousy, guilt feelings, conceit, intolerance and so.

It’s said“The free mind is fully responsible” for “Becoming” – which means always changing, tending toward a significant self realization. Attempting to bolster personality traits without changing the cause (attitude) is self defeating.

Then how to bring the children good? “ Happy is the child who has someone who believes in him, understands his grief, to whom he can carry his problems unafraid, whose love of the true and the good has nourished through the years.” Why not you be that someone.

Parents ought to be the best friends of their children and in return children must duly honour them and show gratitude to them by their very attitude.

 Let your children learn freedom from selfishness through responsibility and co- operation with others.